7 Important Tips to Remember When Dealing With Referees

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Last weekend there was a basketball tournament in town. I had no teams participating and had no other commitments, so I thought I’d head down and check it out…

While it was great watching the youngsters playing, some of the coaches absolutely disgusted me. They we’re yelling at these young referees all game, nearly every game there was a coach receiving a technical foul. Hell, there were even a couple of ejections.It was terrible to say the least.

As the tournament pointed out to me, sometimes coaches find it incredibly difficult to know how to handle referees.

So I decided to write this post providing coaches with a couple of tips to remember about dealing with referees…

 

1. Understand That They’re Human

Referees aren’t perfect. Just like you and I aren’t either.

They’re not going to make the correct call 100% of the time. Just like you and I aren’t going to make the correct coaching decision every single time.

Just because they make an incorrect call doesn’t mean they need to ‘get their eyes checked’ or ‘learn the rule book’.

Stop expecting perfection and start expecting consistency.

 

2. You Both Have Different Angles On The Play

While you are both watching the same game, you will always have a different angle on the play from the referee.

Sometimes you’re going to see things that the referee misses, and sometimes they’re going to see things that you miss.

 

3. Set An Example

Your role as a basketball coach extends much further than merely winning games.

Whether you like it or not, as a basketball coach you are a role model to your players. They look up to you.

If they see you being overly angry at the referees, you can bet they won’t be far behind you.

Don’t teach them bad habits. Teach them to stay under control and fight through it mentally when things aren’t going their way.

 

4. Players Never Argue

One of the most important rules on all of my teams is that players never argue with the referees.

As I pointed out in number three, by not allowing your players to argue, it teaches them self-control.

Not every call in basketball is going to go their way. Just like not everything in life is going to go their way either. Learning how to deal with this is an important skill for all players to learn.

 

5. Remember Your Role

One of the biggest problems I notice in coaches without much experience is that they often get caught up dealing with the referees and forget what their role is in the game.

Your role is to coach. Remember that. Don’t let the referees affect your ability to coach.

 

6. Adjust to The Referee’s

As long as the referees are making calls consistently at both ends of the floor, it’s up to you to adjust your game plan to their style of refereeing.

For example, some referees allow the players to play tougher in the paint than other referees do.

Everyone’s heard the phrase ‘take what the defence gives you’, right? Well in some ways that rule also applies to referees, ‘take what the referees give you’. Adjust your coaching style to suit the way they’re calling the game.

 

7. Never Blame Losses on the Referees

Never blame a loss on the referees. Especially to your players.

By finding an external force to blame for the loss, the players dodge being held accountable for the loss.

If they accept accountability, they accept that the other team was simply a better side which will motivate them to improve. However, if they blame the referees for the loss, they have no motivation to improve their game.

Rather, let your players know that the game is not won and lost in the dying seconds of the game. If they had made one extra shot, or one extra hustle play during the first 46 minutes of play, the game would have been out of reach for the other team.

 

Do you have any other tips for dealing with referees?

  • Kelly

    I refereed my way through college when the baskets were still peach baskets, or so it seems like since it was so long ago. I cannot agree with you more about the coaches maintaining their roles at games. I had a coach that told me while I was playing that “players play and coaches coach. And we will let the referees ref. If anyone needs to talk to the referee it will be me.” I never forgot that. I have even suggested it to a few coaches as a college student and most took it well while others didn’t. ANyway, thanks for your comments I thought they were superb.

    • Thanks for taking the time to leave a reply Kelly 🙂

  • Hey Irv,
    I’m going to assume this happened during a youth basketball game? That doesn’t sound like a great situation to be in… The first thing I’d say is not to blame it on the reffs to the players. There are going to be nights where the reffs seem unreasonable and it’s just something we have to live with. If it was me I’d bring it to the attention of their supervisor or the higher authority and get them to watch the game next time 🙂

  • Great thoughts overall Tom. Thanks for the input!

  • Hey Mark,
    Some might need to. But I bet a lot of coaches would tell some of the referees to learn the rule book too 😉

  • Hey Mark,
    And sometimes it’s usually a toss up which one of them is going to be correct 🙂 I know I’ve been wrong and right on plenty of occasions.

  • Thanks for your input 🙂

  • Fantastic.

    Thanks for your thoughts Rob. I appreciate them.

  • Hey there,
    Haha that’s one I’ve always had trouble with. I’ll fix them up! Thank you 🙂

  • Hey James,
    Awesome list man. Thanks so much for taking the time to write it out for the readers of this blog!

  • Thanks Thomas!

  • I’ve fixed it up 🙂 One I always get a little confused with!
    Thanks.

  • Not a bad idea. I think all coaches should referee at some point. Gives them great perspective to be in the referee’s position.

  • Thanks Greg!

  • Good point. Referees will respect when coaches ask them that instead of yelling at them.

    A lot of referees I’ve talked to have said the same thing.